When we love someone who don't deserve us

Often we hear people say, “I don’t know what was I thinking” or “I can’t believe I went through all that”. Sometimes they claim that they were too good for a relationship which didn’t last long and the list they have is extensive on things that was wrong with the one they loved. At some point of life we all use this "common sentence" when in conversation with someone, or just thinking through what happened in our pasts. I

find it strange when people open their mouth and say something really bad about the ones that were once an integral and close part of their lives- someone they could not imagine to be separated from. We should take responsibility of who we let walk into our life, be with us, or even hurt us rather than complaining about them. People that were once in our lives were a solid reflection of our own being, our own existence at that particular phase in life. Imagine yourself a few years back, imagine the things you did and how you’ve grown to this date. Well the best I think you can do is open your timeline on facebook and go down to the beginning of your history and read through your life! You will realise how fond you were of those people who gave you so much to learn from and who are responsible for who you are today. What you have to do is honor all the people, good or bad as you may think, for creating this wonderful path for you which lead you to be where you are now. Whatever current choices, relationships you have is because of the decisions you made in the past and you have to believe in your choices for making you a wonderful person as you have become. Often people contradict these sentences by saying that they did not choose to get hurt, cheated or played with but the reality is far more complex as in some way you made your own choices and you accepted to get hurt, happy, cheated, or the love you got from them. Inspite of the hurt, you did learn and that heals everything. We grow and we become more aware, we get acquainted with ourselves, thats when we realise how unhappy we are with those people who once made us happiest but then gradually made us miserable. The people who we now can not stand is as a matter of fact our own reflection, our essense that we no longer feel connected with. Respect those people and by doing that you would have respected yourself. Instead have faith that you have grown and recognise where that growth came from. When we let someone down or when we are let down by someone we love, the only way of healing is by accepting our/their choices and thanking those people who hurt us and made us better people. When we get hurt, we also hurt people in ways that we may not know. These people were once great aspects of ourselves but they were either not ready for us, or perhaps we were not ready for them. We hurt ourselves by hurting these people, but eventually the universe opens doors for us and we end up falling in love once again and being happy which replenshies our hearts once more. As they say, Love is the most powerful healing energy. Remember that the relation that will forever last is the one with our ownself. When you love yourself, you become capable of loving someone else. You love you and then we love you too.